I loved my father dearly, respected his convictions even when we didn't always agree, and ascribed great importance to his opinions.
But I wasn't willing to break up with my boyfriend.
Through it all, my father and I had many long discussions on the subject of intermarriage.
Eventually he came to accept my choice, though it was very difficult for him.
When my boyfriend asked my parents for my hand in marriage, he reassured my father that he understood the importance of Judaism in our lives and would honor and uphold Jewish traditions and values.
Though probably still reluctant, my father lovingly said yes.
) But when I told my dad, his first and foremost concern was for my wellbeing.
To this day he and my mother have been extremely supportive of me, though occasionally my dad makes an "if only you would have listened to me…" statement, which pierces me to the core.
After all, nice Jewish girls don't get divorced, right?
Moreover, I fear that my divorce could signify to the outside world that my father was right about intermarriage. I want to believe that my divorce is not related in any way to the fact that my ex was not Jewish.
He told me he was in love with the other woman and wanted a divorce. If there were cracks in our relationship, he had not communicated them to me.